BOOKS, PODCASTS & ONLINE RESOURCES
Check out some online courses here.
Attachment Theory - a guide to strengthening the relationships in your life - Thais Gibson (amazon)
Attached - Levine & Heller (amazon)
The Flight from Intimacy: Healing Your Relationship of Counter-dependency - Weinhold & Weinhold (amazon)
Wired for Love and Wired for Dating - Stan Tatkin (amazon)
The Power of Attachment - Diane Poole Heller (amazon)
Healing Your Attachment Wounds: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships (Audiobook) - Diane Poole Heller
Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner - Jeb Kinnison (amazon)
Facing Codependence and The Intimacy Factor - Pia Mellody (amazon)
Trauma & the Avoidant Client - Robert Muller (amazon)
Attachment in Adulthood: Structure, Dynamics & Change - Mikulincer & Shaver (amazon)
Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love - Robert Karen
Attachment and the Defence Against Intimacy - Linda Cundy (amazon)
Attachment Across the Lifecourse - David Howe
Struggle for Intimacy - Janet Wotitiz
Attached at the Heart: 8 Proven Parenting Principles for Raising Connected and Compassionate Children - Barbara Nicholson
Getting the Love You Want - A Guide for Couples - Harville Hendrix
Hold Me Tight - Sue Johnson
When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships - David Richo
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work - John M Gottman
Communication Miracles for Couples: Easy and Effective Tools to Create More Love and Less Conflict - Jonathan Robinson
We Do - Stan Tatkin
Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't - Henry Cloud
How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving - David Richo
Love & Limerence - Dorothy Tennoy
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself - Aziz Gazipura (amazon)
Boundaries: Where You End And I Begin: how to recognise & set healthy boundaries - Anne Katherine
Boundaries - Cloud & Townsend (amazon)
Lost Connections: Why You're Depressed and How To Find Hope - Johann Haari
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents - Lindsay Gibson
Parent Yourself Again - Yong Kang Chan
Inner Bonding & Inner Bonding Workbook - Margaret Paul
The Dismissing/Avoidant Style of Relating in Adult Relationships - Therapist Uncensored
How To Feel Safe & Secure With Your Partner with Stan Tatkin - The Relationship School
Moving to a Secure Attachment Style - Love Intently Podcast
Boundaries for Partners of Avoiders - Beyond Bitchy
Avoidant Attachment in Marriage - The Marriage Podcast for Smart People
Connor Beaton - various life mastery podcasts directed at men
www.connorbeaton.com (self mastery directed at men specifically)
Introduction to Avoidant Attachment
Enmeshment & Individuation
Some very readable links:
This site has drawn from these links and many other resources.
If I had my life to live over again – Nadine Stair
If I had my life to live over again,
I’d dare to make more mistakes next time.
I’d limber up.
I’d be sillier than I’ve been this trip.
I would take fewer things seriously.
I would take more chances,
I would eat more ice cream and less beans.
I would, perhaps, have more actual troubles but fewer imaginary ones.
You see, I’m one of those people who was sensible and sane,
Hour after hour,
Day after day.
Oh, I’ve had my moments.
If I had to do it over again,
I’d have more of them.
In fact, I’d try to have nothing else - just moments,
One after another, instead of living so many years ahead of each day.
I’ve been one of those persons who never goes anywhere without a thermometer, a hot-water bottle, a raincoat, and a parachute.
If I could do it again, I would travel lighter than I have.
If I had to live my life over,
I would start barefoot earlier in the spring
And stay that way later in the fall.
I would go to more dances,
I would ride more merry-go-rounds,
I would pick more daisies.