Check out some online courses on the Solutions Overview page.

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There is a good test for your attachment style here which can also track it as it develops. 

 

Books:

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On attachment

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• Attachment Theory - a guide to strengthening the relationships in your life - Thais Gibson (amazon)

• Attached - Levine & Heller (amazon)

• The Flight from Intimacy: Healing Your Relationship of Counter-Dependency - Weinhold & Weinhold (amazon)     

• The Power of Attachment - Diane Poole Heller (amazon) 

• Healing Your Attachment Wounds: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships (Audiobook) - Diane Poole Heller (amazon)

• Wired for Love and Wired for Dating - Stan Tatkin (amazon)

• The Attachment Theory Workbook - Annie Chen (amazon)

• Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner - Jeb Kinnison (amazon)

• Facing Codependence and The Intimacy Factor - Pia Mellody (amazon)

• Attachment Across the Lifecourse - David Howe (amazon)

• Trauma & the Avoidant Client - Robert Muller (amazon)

• Attachment in Adulthood: Structure, Dynamics & Change - Mikulincer & Shaver (amazon)

• Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love - Robert Karen (amazon)

• Attachment and the Defence Against Intimacy - Linda Cundy (amazon)

• The Struggle for Intimacy - Janet Wotitiz (amazon)

• Attached at the Heart: 8 Proven Parenting Principles for Raising Connected and Compassionate Children - Barbara Nicholson (amazon)

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On relationships

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• Hold Me Tight - Sue Johnson (amazon)

• When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships - David Richo (amazon)

• Getting the Love You Want - A Guide for Couples - Harville Hendrix (amazon)

• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work  - John M Gottman (amazon)

• Communication Miracles for Couples: Easy and Effective Tools to Create More Love and Less Conflict - Jonathan Robinson (amazon)

• We Do - Stan Tatkin (amazon)

• Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't - Henry Cloud (amazon)

• How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving - David Richo (amazon)

• Love & Limerence - Dorothy Tennoy (amazon)

• Why Won't You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts - Harriet Lerner (amazon)

• I Love You but I'm Not in Love with You: Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship - Andrew Marshall (amazon)

• The Happy Couple's Secret - Harville Hendrix (amazon)

• Renovate Your Relationships - Scott Vaudrey

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Other

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• Running on Empty: Overcome your Childhood Emotional Neglect - Musello & Webb (amazon)

• The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind, And Body In The Healing Of Trauma - Bessel A. van der Kolk

• Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall Rosenberg,

• Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents - Lindsay Gibson (amazon)

• Constructive Wallowing: How To Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them - Tina Gilbertson (amazon)

• Mindsight - Dan Siegal (intro) (amazon)

• Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself - Aziz Gazipura (amazon)

• The One Thing Holding You Back: Unleashing the Power of Emotional Connection - Raphael Cushnir (amazon)

• Boundaries: Where You End And I Begin: how to recognise & set healthy boundaries - Anne Katherine (amazon)

• Boundaries - Cloud & Townsend (amazon)

• The Art of Everyday Assertiveness - Patrick King (amazon)

• The Assertiveness Workbook - Randy Paterson (amazon)

• Lost Connections: Why You're Depressed and How To Find Hope - Johann Haari (amazon)

• Inner Bonding & Inner Bonding Workbook - Margaret Paul (amazon)

• Parent Yourself Again - Yong Kang Chan (amazon)

• Master Your Emotions - Thibaut Meurisse (amazon)

• How to Overcome Your Childhood - The School of Life (amazon)

• Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing from Narcissistic Parents - Karyl McBride (amazon)

• An Adult Child's Guide to What is Normal - Friel & Friel (amazon)

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Podcasts: 

The Dismissing/Avoidant Style of Relating in Adult Relationships - Therapist Uncensored

(- good podcast series in general, which often includes attachment theory)

How To Feel Safe & Secure With Your Partner with Stan Tatkin - The Relationship School

Moving to a Secure Attachment Style - Love Intently Podcast

Boundaries for Partners of Avoiders - Beyond Bitchy

Avoidant Attachment in Marriage - The Marriage Podcast for Smart People

Connor Beaton - various life mastery podcasts directed at men

Tracy Crossley - attachment & insecurity in relationships, how to stop making fear-based decisions etc

Shattering BS Beliefs - Amy Turner

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Websites: 

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www.pathwaytohappiness.com

www.personaldevelopmentschool.com

www.heirloomcounseling.com

​https://www.exquisite.love/blog/2019/4/3/attachment-theory-notes-articles-amp-resources

www.connorbeaton.com  (self mastery directed at men specifically)

www.dianepooleheller.com

https://www.gottman.com

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YouTube: 

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Relationship OCD Channel

Personal Development School

Alan Robarge

Briana MacWilliam

Richard Grannon

Mark Groves

The Attachment Project

The School of Life

The Gottman Institute

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Instagram: 

 

The Secure Relationship

Mark Groves

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Forums: 

These are great places to share information, ask questions, hear stories and

read advice from others on how they work with their attachment styles.

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Reddit Attachment Theory

Jeb Kinnison Attachment Forum

Personal Development School Facebook Group

Attachment in Relationships Facebook Group

Attachment Community Facebook Group

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