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Thais Gibson of the Personal Development School in particular ("tools and tips for the subconscious mind") makes excellent videos on attachment. She also has online courses and extensive resources to reprogram your attachment style, through which many people have converted to secure attachment, and on other mental health topics. Check out her and other videos below, and more on YouTube.

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Videos for Partners


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40 Key Traits of the

Dismissive Avoidant

The Avoidant in Relationships

Avoidant: How to Lead

a Healthier & Happier Life

  Avoidant Obstacles & Solutions

(incl. experiencing emotion as criticism)


Avoidant Core Wounds &

How To Reprogram

Avoidant Attachment, Emotional

Neglect & Reprogramming It

Healing the Dismissive

Avoidant Attachment Style

7 Main Avoidant Deactivating 

Strategies & Why

Avoidants & Counter-Dependency

Counter-Dependency & Love

Avoidant: What Your Partner

Wants YouTo Know

Avoidant Attachment Intro

Why the Avoidant is Passive

Aggressive & What to Do

How to be Vulnerable

Why Avoidants Doubt Their Feelings

So Often In Relationships

Why Avoidants Doubt Their Feelings


Avoidants in the

Power Struggle Phase

Patterns to Recognise if an Avoidant is Becoming Securely Attached

Avoidants & Limerance:

What Creates Attraction

The Link Between

Avoidants & Depression

Avoidants & 

Long Distance Relationships

The Avoidant's 8 Major Core Wounds

& Emotional Patterns

Why Two Avoidants In A

Relationship Don't Last

Avoidants, Avoiding Greetings,

& How To Greet a Partner

Avoidants - How To Process Emotions

(Self-Soothing vs. Coping)

How Avoidants Retraumatise

What Deactivating Is Like

How To Overcome 

Deactivating Strategies

How Avoidants Experience

Romantic Feelings

Are You Falling Out of Love or Just Deactivating? Signs You're Still In Love

Avoidants: Shutting Down &

Feeling Like A Bad Partner

Avoidant Core Wound: "I Am Defective"

The Avoidant Relationship Shadow

What Communication Should Be Like

As You Become More Secure

How To Achieve Secure

Attachment Fast

5 Types of Deactivating Strategy:

Fear, Sadness, Self-Protection, 

Resentment, Feeling-Avoidance

4 Types of Avoidant

Boredom & Avoidant Attachment:

How To Reframe Your Fears

Reparenting Avoidant Needs

Avoidant's Dating Checklist part 1

Avoidant's Dating Checklist part 2


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Shadow Work

Enmeshment Trauma


Re-Parenting Your Inner Child

How To Improve Your Self-Esteem

Why You Feel Depressed

Narcissistic Parents

How To Get Over

Fear Of Commitment

Fear of Commitment

Why You're Indecisive

Master Your Emotions

Criticism When You've Had

A Bad Childhood


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Bids for Connection

Thriving Post-Honeymoon Phase

(ways to create love & keep it alive)

5 Steps to Resolve Conflict

The Danger of Being

Too Polite in Love

Why We Sabotage Love

How Unmet Needs Create Infatuation

How To Create & Rebuild Trust

How To Cope When You've Been Left

Avoidant Dax Shepard on how he

makes it work with Kristen Bell

How To Stop Being Attracted To Emotionally Unavailable People

Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person

The Recipe for a Secure, Healthy Relationship (podcast)

The Hardest Person In The

World To Break Up With

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For Partners

Dating The Avoidant

The Avoidant's Idea of

a Healthy Relationship

The Avoidant Partner

How to Cope with an Avoidant Partner

How to Respond to an

Avoidant Partner

Why the Avoidant is Emotionally

Closed and How to Open Up

What Love Feels Like

For An Avoidant

5 Warning Signs Your

Relationship is Toxic

Avoidants & Sex

Avoidant or Narcissistic?

Avoidant or Just Not Interested?

Signs an Avoidant is Ready for Love

Finally, just for fun, sometimes it helps to just... stop it!

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